Being in the center of attention is an instinct that is inherent in humans. Parents who are expecting the second or the next child will mostly face this situation, because the first child, who has been the sole focus of the family and the environment, sees the newborn as a rival thus the jealousy arises.

The sibling will perceive this new situation as a division of interest on his/her own side, and will think that he/ she will remain in the background. Although it is not the case for parents, it is natural that the sibling gets this feeling, because until that very day the sibling has never imagined the existence of someone else who would get as much attention as he had. So this is an unusual process for the sibling which is not easy to get used to.

How to avoid sibling jealousy?

If you face such a sibling jealousy cases, it is more important to know what you should not do. For example, the older sibling, who shows signs of jealousy, should never be punished or scolded for what he or she does.

Another thing you need to watch out for, is to give more attention to the older sibling, to try to fulfill his/her wishes that you have not done so before and to make the child feel like he/she is only one for you.

Another way to prevent jealousy is to include the older sibling in the care of the newborn in line with of his or her abilities. If the older sibling does not want the responsibility given, he/she should not be forced to do so.

By engaging in common activities with your older child and your newborn, you can encourage the older sibling to take part in taking care of the younger sibling. A family picnic or an activity outside the home can help.

Never make a comparison between siblings. Not every child has the same speed of development, ability and skill. A child can be more sociable and chatty while the other can be calm.

Older sibling’s room, toys, books are his/her private articles, and he/she should not be forced to share them. Also, according to experts, certain measures taken even before the baby is born will help the older sibling to get used to new situation.

What can be done before the birth?

Try to give the older sibling some special time before the baby is born.

Be careful not to put your child the center of the world before the baby is born.

Do not do everything she/ he asks.

It is important to practice petting the baby after the mother's stomach becomes visible, to keep the older sibling physically close to you and to allow him/her to touch the baby during these exercises.

You can talk to your child about what a sibling means.

If possible, separate their bed and room before the sibling is born.